I’ve heard a lot of people over the years talking about Having It All. You know the ones I’m talking about. The ones who sound like the guy on the middle of the night infomercial selling The Chopper…
YOU TOO CAN HAVE IT ALL – ORDER MY PROGRAM AND WITH JUST 42 SIMPLE STEPS YOU CAN SLICE, DICE, MAKE JULIENNE FRIES, AND PAY OFF YOUR MORTGAGE 17 YEARS EARLY WHILE YOU SLEEP.
I think Having It All is a myth. What makes me believe that? Because All changes with every moment that passes. My goals and family’s needs today will not be the same in 6 months or a year. They may be similar, but they’ll evolve and grow and change. I think you can have it all for a fleeting moment, but no longer than that. When you achieve goals or check something off of the “always wanted to do” list, there’s always a new goal… a new dream… a new definition of what Having It All would include.
For as long as I could remember, I’ve had a list of what a perfect daily life aka It All would be for me. I’ve wanted to do work I love… and write books… and bake cookies… and travel with my family… and blog… and grow a vegetable garden… and volunteer at my kid’s school in the middle of the afternoon for no other reason than it’s Tuesday. My list has evolved over the years and some things have fallen off and others have been added to, but that’s the general gist of what getting it all would be in my world.
I never believed that those things were possible because, really… who actually gets to do that? You work, you come home, you fit in the things you love to do around the things you have to do and you suck it the hell up because that’s what being a grownup is about.
And then, a few months ago, I started seeing these conversations all over my social network about “Living Your Truth” and “Escaping Mediocrity” and “Finding Work You Love“. I started thinking that maybe I could start getting the life that I want instead of the life that I was expected to have. You could say I started drinking the kool aid!
I started reading books and blogs and news articles about sculpting your life into what you want it to be… and about taking back your own power. I started telling myself that I would not continue to be the barrier to my own success. I even started to believe all of that nonsense just a little bit more every day.
My AHA moment, and I know this will sound EXTRAORDINARILY HOKEY, was when Elizabeth posted something on twitter that resonated with me so deeply that I can’t even begin to tell you how it felt. She said “The best thing I ever did was stop asking people what they thought I should do.” I stopped in my tracks.
I DO that. I have amazing fabulous ideas… and I never trust myself enough to just run with it. I always ask. I always alter my vision to suit what others see. I always second guess. And I always stop JUST short of following through.
And I’ve told you all of that to say this… This website is the beginning of me finally following my heart and GETTING IT ALL… and helping you, my friends, see that you can get it all too. I don’t know yet exactly what it will look like or sound like, but I couldn’t wait any longer to get started. The excuse monster was lurking.
I do know that I’ll be sharing interviews of other moms who are getting their own brand of “it all” and how they’re doing it and what their challenges are. I’ll be telling my own stories and sharing in yours as well. We’ll figure out the rest together.
So here goes. I quit my day job. My last day will be May 28th. I’m building my own web design business and transitioning to a work from home mom and the president of the PTSA next year and I’m baking the damned cookies. It’s not going to be easy, but I bet that it’ll be educational… for all of us.
I hope you’ll join me and keep me company and share your stories too.
*Edited and added a teeny bit on 5/20